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Dr. Ellen’s “A Few Good Rules to Live By” – Tips From a Family Expert

Posted on February 4, 2012 By


First, do no harm.

When in doubt, don’t.

Humor helps.

Under stress talk less.

Clean your own house first.

Keep your focus on self when everything around you is in turmoil.

Deep breathing calms.

The marital pair comes first, children second.

Sex is not a duty in any relationship.

Men don’t need sex any more than women do.

No means no.

Your body language speaks volumes whether you know it or not.

Parenting is not a forever thing – it ends when your child grows up.

Save regular, unencumbered time for self.

Think big thoughts.

Anxious thoughts can be your own worst enemy.

Negative behavior is anxious behavior.

Perception is everything – we see what we want to see in life.

Patterns repeat.

Remember that some things have no answers.

Collect more ideas than things.

Try to see the forest for the trees.

Money matters but not as much as you think.

‘I can’t’ is a whimpy way of saying ‘I won’t’.

The word ‘but’ cancels out everything that comes before it.

Ask fewer questions, make more self-defining statements.

Use the telephone only for scheduling things.

Learn to prioritize.

First, agree to disagree.

Limit interruptions when you want to get something done.

Read to learn, not to escape.

Your support system should include more than your family.

Follow the ‘present person’ rule — talk only about those who are in the room with you.

Make at least one new ‘best friend’ in every decade of your life.

Gather data before you act.

Be a dispassionate observer of the world around you.

Read, read, and read some more.

Cultivate endless creative outlets for yourself.

And never, ever settle for second best.